Oh, how I wish I had understood this back in the late 80’s/early 90’s!
One of our housemates also attended our church, where I was very active and outgoing in the music, taking classes, and volunteering.
When I got home, I tended to retreat into my room. But after a while, this roommate started complaining because I was so standoffish and unfriendly. He actually got pretty demanding about how I “should” be spending more time with my housemates, which just made me avoid him even more.
It was extremely uncomfortable.
Much later I realized that he saw me being so friendly and approachable at church and his feelings were hurt that I wasn’t that way at home. And I didn’t know how to explain, because I didn’t fully understand it myself!
I don’t even remember his name, but I hope that wherever he is and whatever he’s doing (and if he even remembers me!), he’ll see this little cartoon and understand that it wasn’t personal.